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Post by jackjack on Dec 10, 2015 5:46:39 GMT
Nietzsche once said, "Without music, life would be a mistake." And then he posted this
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Post by Caliya on Dec 10, 2015 8:04:48 GMT
Oh my. I need to think about that one.
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Post by Mordecai on Dec 10, 2015 17:37:22 GMT
Well, nobody ever said that getting a place to live in SotA would be easy...
I put on my dress and wizard's bonnet
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Post by Caliya on Dec 10, 2015 18:07:52 GMT
Well, nobody ever said that getting a place to live in SotA would be easy... I put on my dress and wizard's bonnet Yes but, do you live down under or NZ time zones?
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Post by Mordecai on Dec 10, 2015 19:06:10 GMT
In all seriousness, asking for a lady friend on the forum is a risky move. In addition to being poked at here, there's also a chance that some guy will answer the call just to get access to a big house. The old adage about women on the Internet isn't as accurate as it used to be, but it still holds water: "They're either men, or men disguised as women."
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Post by nemolives on Dec 10, 2015 21:35:40 GMT
In all seriousness, asking for a lady friend on the forum is a risky move. In addition to being poked at here, there's also a chance that some guy will answer the call just to get access to a big house. The old adage about women on the Internet isn't as accurate as it used to be, but it still holds water: "They're either men, or men disguised as women." It does raise a rather worrying question though; I wonder how many of the Whales have sunk so much money into the game because they were hoping it would form the basis of a new social life? There's run of the mill hoping for a new community, which I can understand, but that thread sounds like something deeper... the specification of being a Female companion, and doing it so publicly, practically shouts of extreme loneliness. I'm not going to judge him for that, we've all done foolish things when lonely, but it is unsettling to think some of the desperate belief in Shroud, or blindness to how it's alienating others, might be coming from people who aren't in a good place in their life... and who maybe think that if they just invest more into the game, they'll save themselves too. But I did also think as you did Mordecai, the chances of someone faking being female would be quite high... at least, if the game looked like it was going to succeed; but what's the point of scamming someone in a dead, empty world? Perhaps for a true psychopath the point is to hurt him, even if no one else ever knows about it, but still... the saddest thing is, because there's virtually no one new in the community, and the game is progressing so very slowly, he's not going to meet either lunatics or ladies and felt he had to make this rather wince-inducing public plea. I wish him well, but it's not a healthy state to be in.
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Dec 10, 2015 22:37:54 GMT
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Post by Caliya on Dec 10, 2015 22:37:54 GMT
I feel sorry for him really. I mean, there are lots of success stories about people meeting in UO, and other MMOs. I know we met that way, but we weren't looking to meet someone in a game. It just sort of happened and was surprising to us both.
The thing is, a woman who also games is a plus for a guy, because they share a common interest. I get it. But what I don't get is someone putting it out there before the game is even released.
I've known too many of my male friends that posed as women in games, to get things from guys. He's putting a lot of trust out there to post something like that. He risks being hacked, or taken for what he's worth, by someone he'll probably never meet.
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Dec 10, 2015 23:09:37 GMT
Post by titsup on Dec 10, 2015 23:09:37 GMT
I feel sorry for him really. I mean, there are lots of success stories about people meeting in UO, and other MMOs. I know we met that way, but we weren't looking to meet someone in a game. It just sort of happened and was surprising to us both. I'll spare the story, but I dated a girl from UO in a very similar fashion. We actually didn't meet in game, we met because I joined a guild she was a member of and received ICQ contacts for people in the guild and hers was one. I rarely played with her. We dated for maybe 6 months long distance with me traveling 8 hours to see her every couple of weekends. We're fb friends now but really don't keep in touch. Its hard to explain to people that I both had a social life and yet dated a girl I met in a game. Especially when I interviewed for a position as a police officer. I did not get the position.
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Post by nemolives on Dec 10, 2015 23:50:43 GMT
I feel sorry for him really. I mean, there are lots of success stories about people meeting in UO, and other MMOs. I know we met that way, but we weren't looking to meet someone in a game. It just sort of happened and was surprising to us both. I'll spare the story, but I dated a girl from UO in a very similar fashion. We actually didn't meet in game, we met because I joined a guild she was a member of and received ICQ contacts for people in the guild and hers was one. I rarely played with her. We dated for maybe 6 months long distance with me traveling 8 hours to see her every couple of weekends. We're fb friends now but really don't keep in touch. Its hard to explain to people that I both had a social life and yet dated a girl I met in a game. Especially when I interviewed for a position as a police officer. I did not get the position. Yes, an English friend of mine married an American woman he met in WoW... It's really no different from any other long distance dating, like Plenty Of Fish/OkCupid etc. You either make it work in real life or don't but it's no worse or better than any other form of communication... and as you say, at least there's a genuine shared hobby to begin with! And I have my UO dating stories too, with rather less romantic, more horrendous outcomes; so here's a funnier story instead, well, for me! I accidentally seduced a guy on my female character in Despise Dungeon, he he. This must have been in 2003 I think. My crafter was female, called Muffin... after Muffin the Mule, a very old childrens show in the UK; I just liked the pun on Mule and didn't have any prejudices that women can't do this or that, or men can't act feminine so why not? And I was down in the depths killing lizardmen for spined leather, when I noticed a character following me around. After about 20 minutes of this I asked him if I could help? And asked if I would I like a date. I said "I'm sorry this character doesn't date in game", and he tried to reason me into it for maybe 10 minutes more, despite my saying I didn't erotic roleplay. So then he finally says "Well what about in real life then?" And I politely point out I'm sorry, but I'm male in real life. At which he explodes and says how sick I must be to pretend to be a woman, how dare I dress my character sexily (I was using black shirt and apron to make a backless dress and the thigh length boots) ... I just apologized and quickly recalled home!
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Post by fossil on Dec 11, 2015 0:01:45 GMT
I'll spare the story, but I dated a girl from UO in a very similar fashion. We actually didn't meet in game, we met because I joined a guild she was a member of and received ICQ contacts for people in the guild and hers was one. I rarely played with her. We dated for maybe 6 months long distance with me traveling 8 hours to see her every couple of weekends. We're fb friends now but really don't keep in touch. Its hard to explain to people that I both had a social life and yet dated a girl I met in a game. Especially when I interviewed for a position as a police officer. I did not get the position. Yes, an English friend of mine married an American woman he met in WoW... It's really no different from any other long distance dating, like Plenty Of Fish/OkCupid etc. You either make it work in real life or don't but it's no worse or better than any other form of communication... and as you say, at least there's a genuine shared hobby to begin with! And I have my UO dating stories too, with rather less romantic, more horrendous outcomes; so here's a funnier story instead, well, for me! I accidentally seduced a guy on my female character in Despise Dungeon, he he. This must have been in 2003 I think. My crafter was female, called Muffin... after Muffin the Mule, a very old childrens show in the UK; I just liked the pun on Mule and didn't have any prejudices that women can't do this or that, or men can't act feminine so why not? And I was down in the depths killing lizardmen for spined leather, when I noticed a character following me around. After about 20 minutes of this I asked him if I could help? And asked if I would I like a date. I said "I'm sorry this character doesn't date in game", and he tried to reason me into it for maybe 10 minutes more, despite my saying I didn't erotic roleplay. So then he finally says "Well what about in real life then?" And I politely point out I'm sorry, but I'm male in real life. At which he explodes and says how sick I must be to pretend to be a woman, how dare I dress my character sexily (I was using black shirt and apron to make a backless dress and the thigh length boots) ... I just apologized and quickly recalled home! You win SU for the day! lols
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Post by Caliya on Dec 11, 2015 0:14:17 GMT
At which he explodes and says how sick I must be to pretend to be a woman, how dare I dress my character sexily Here is some creep, trying to get sex from someone that's nothing more than a pixelated woman calling you "sick?" As if women can't dress any way they want, and guys can't create female characters? I wouldn't have apologized, I would've called him a perv, or worse
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Post by dewderonomy on Dec 11, 2015 2:21:45 GMT
Yes, an English friend of mine married an American woman he met in WoW... It's really no different from any other long distance dating, like Plenty Of Fish/OkCupid etc. You either make it work in real life or don't but it's no worse or better than any other form of communication... and as you say, at least there's a genuine shared hobby to begin with! As someone who married an English woman I met on UO, I have to disagree. We've been married a year and a half, and after thousands upon thousands of dollars in paperwork fees, forms and plane trips, there are definitely easier forms of communication and interaction.
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Post by Membrane_on_Vacation on Dec 11, 2015 4:56:18 GMT
I'm quite surprised with how many people out there have met online through UO or games. My default position is that women in games are always men and I'm not usually willing to spend the time to find out if they aren't lol.
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Post by Caliya on Dec 11, 2015 10:23:34 GMT
As someone who married an English woman I met on UO, I have to disagree. We've been married a year and a half, and after thousands upon thousands of dollars in paperwork fees, forms and plane trips, there are definitely easier forms of communication and interaction. Denmark is the "Las Vegas" of Europe. No red tape like the US or UK have.
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Post by nemolives on Dec 11, 2015 11:38:51 GMT
Yes, an English friend of mine married an American woman he met in WoW... It's really no different from any other long distance dating, like Plenty Of Fish/OkCupid etc. You either make it work in real life or don't but it's no worse or better than any other form of communication... and as you say, at least there's a genuine shared hobby to begin with! As someone who married an English woman I met on UO, I have to disagree. We've been married a year and a half, and after thousands upon thousands of dollars in paperwork fees, forms and plane trips, there are definitely easier forms of communication and interaction. I can't recall if you've said, but are you American? Because to be fair I will admit it's gotten spectacularly harder since 9/11 to bring spouses into the US, and it's only getting worse each year as public fear of immigrants and refugees is being ramped up... my friend was white, English, and had a job offer waiting from Apple as a Geek Squad member guaranteed, and it still took him 2 years to get a green card and be able to join his wife. Still, both he and you seemed to make it work, and I'm an old romantic in that I tend to see that as proving your relationships as being as good if not better than any other relationship, even if practically it's harder. You had to work I agree, but it did work, which is more than can be said for most. On the other hand, I accidentally caused a divorce in UO with a woman who fled to Europe for someone she met in UO, who used her freedom to move around here to fall in love with lots of other men including me. That... didn't work out quite as well, despite it on paper being so much easier. Being close helps, I'm not minimizing that. And not having to spend on paperwork helps too. But it doesn't totally disqualify you from finding happiness is my view I guess. Having a wang in Despise apparently does though. Unless I was gay and then, ahh so what, life is short, grab it by the goolies and have fun, it's all good.
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Post by titsup on Dec 11, 2015 16:54:24 GMT
seems to be a real charmer.
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Dec 11, 2015 20:41:55 GMT
Post by dewderonomy on Dec 11, 2015 20:41:55 GMT
seems to be a real charmer. I bet he's fun at parties.
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Dec 11, 2015 21:08:38 GMT
Post by fossil on Dec 11, 2015 21:08:38 GMT
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